A woman on a list I belong to came across a ratty old quilt. She asked the group what she should do with it as it was too far gone to repair.
I just want to make some observations about quilts, old and new. We all make them for different reasons. For myself, I enjoy the process. Some of them I have given as gifts, some I have sold, many I have used and enjoyed. Only a couple have any sentimental value.
Here’s where you can gasp in horror – I threw out the first original quilt I designed and made. I loved it at the time, of course, but the fabric was inferior and one of the pieces began to rot right through within a couple years. After giving it house room for more than two decades, I got rid of it last fall after my mother died.
The conjunction of those two things is not an accident. As I may have mentioned before, my mother’s 3400 sq foot house was crammed with THINGS. She thought all of them were worth saving. Heck, she thought most of them were worth money. She was wrong. Something is worth money only if someone else is willing to pay for it.
If you are a person who finds sentiment in everything, for whom every old plate or quilt has a story to tell, that’s great. Keep those things. Enjoy them. Use them. Or box them up and become a hoarder.
But please, don’t try to make other people feel bad if they do not feel that same connection. Not all of us do and I say, thank goodness for that. We have to live in whatever space we have. Keeping everything is just impossible unless you want to walk sideways through the piles.
In my opinion, keep the things that mean something to YOU. If the original maker of that quilt didn’t care enough to leave it to a family member or if there was no one in the family who cared or even if there was no family left, the sentiment is already gone. Without knowing the story, you aren’t holding onto their history. You’re just making things up.
Here is the next part that will make people mad at me. You can’t keep everything connected to a person you love, much less all the other old stuff that will cross your path. Keep the brooch she wore every Sunday or the ring she got for her 25th anniversary, but get rid of the dime store earrings she bought on a whim or the whole collection of inexpensive watches, bought to match every outfit.
Keep something you will use or wear or hang on the wall. If you are going to keep it in a box in your attic, you might as well save a step and send it to the Salvation Army right now. If you don’t, your children will.